I know your face.
I know your voice.
Stop running...
Embrace me.
Purple Scribbling
I LIVE. I PONDER. I SCRIBBLE.
23 August 2016
13 July 2015
An Extraordinary Life
This is the hardest piece of writing, more difficult compared to the numerous technical papers I've churned out for the last decade. Words just became words, now useless to give justice to even an inch of the pain and devastation that infested me. Indeed, it will never be enough to describe our family's sorrow with the passing of a beloved brother, uncle, granduncle, champion, leader, friend, and faithful priest. Given his magnanimous person, I am posting my humble eulogy, a sincere attempt to honor Rev. Father Floyd Cadatal Codog even though words will never be enough and this is all I have to offer.
An Extraordinary Life
I am borrowing a line from my cousin Karla, the one she posted as her Facebook status five days ago, it said, “Tito-Father, how do I live a life without you?” Yes, I stand here asking the same question. I am pretty sure almost all of us here echo the same question. Tito-Father Floyd left without any warning, he left in haste. His sudden passing broke my heart terribly.
I pause and now realized
that he still taught me a valuable lesson even in his moment of early
departure. Tito-Father Floyd may have not live long but the quality of the life
he lived cannot be diminished. It is now proven that he has touched the lives of
countless people with his own brand of honesty, care and
leadership. They came in droves; kin, friends, acquaintances, even
strangers, to pay their last respect to a man who positively affected them in
many ways. This is how Tito-Father Floyd’s charisma and sincerity work
wonders.
As his “panganay na
pamangkin”, I enjoyed his foremost attention. Growing up miles away from
him, did not put a stop to the birthday cards, letters, books and
presents. Until I went away for college, Tito-Father remained my guiding
light, he was my steadfast supporter. He never got in the way
and with his earnest approach in life, he taught me to have a
strong and a kind heart. All he wanted was for me to succeed, for
all of us (my dear cousins) to find success in our lives. As a matter of
fact, he was the one who told me to recognize and take good care of my talent
because it was God given. He inspired me and believed that I have a
special way with words. And I believe him, years later, today, I use this
gift to much of my advantage, I use writing to connect with people, to
commune with the world, and most importantly, I use it to make a living.
Tito-Father Floyd is the
tough thread that tightly binds the family. He made sure our families
stays closer every year, to stick for each other, come what may. He
taught us to take family pride seriously and lovingly at the same time.He was
the champion of his brothers and sisters, friends, community, parish; for he
was always available when you needed him. Most of the time, “inuuna pa
niya ang iba, bago ang saril inya.” Even when he was sick, he made sure
my mother and father were taken care of.
With all that has been
said, we did not only lose a good priest. We lost an inspirational
uncle to nieces and nephews, an awesome grandfather (granduncle) to 15
grandkids, a compassionate brother to his brothers and sisters and community, a
kind-hearted father to Jeric, Buboy, Kevin and Dong, an emphatic leader to his
parish, and a great friend to many.
Going back to my question a
while ago, “Tito-Father, how do I live a life without you?” My answer is,
I will live it like the way you did Tito-Father Floyd; you lived an
extraordinary life and so will I. This is how I choose to honor
you. Life is short so I will untiringly pursue the thing that makes
me feel alive and fight for what I believe in. Like you, I will be
dauntless. I will be courageous. And I will be compassionate. We
must all strive to do extraordinary work, wherever we are right now, and seek
for extraordinary love in everything we do. This is how life should
matter. This is the legacy that Tito-Father wants to leave behind.
My dear Tito-Father Floyd,
you have done enough to inspire me and you gave us memories enough to last
us a lifetime. You will always be my hero. Thank you for everything you did for
me and my family. I know you are happy with Nanay and Tatay up there in
heaven, now that you've earned your heavenly wings, becoming our guardian
angel suits you well.
I love you and I will
never forget you.
I will only say, until we
meet again.
*Necrological
Service hosted by the Knights of Columbus, St. Michael Cathedral, Ilagan,
Isabela, 21 June 2015
10 April 2015
Where are you
Are you in the darkest and
deepest pit beyond my imagination? How
dark? How deep?
I need to find you. You are my only hope, you see, I could not
even protect myself from myself anymore.
I allowed uncertainty to creep into my heart during trying moments.
At least now, this is lucid
as I get, I am looking for you. Digging
deep into myself, comprehending … failing…but comprehending still. I know you are just waiting to be found.
I need you to write words for
me again. The same way you wrote words
like flowing water from the cornucopian pipe.
For words are my only salvation as I am lost in a sea of doubts and
disappointments.
Who said life is easy? It may be easy for others but for me, life is
meant to be lived to the fullest. It is
then not easy at all, for it should be lived to its optimum potential.
I cannot compromise my
standards of what a full life is and how I understand the means to achieve
it. I just can’t.
I need you.
03 October 2014
For Molave
If there is a way I could do to stop your pain and
suffering….
… a way to fight your battle, I’d take the cudgels
… a way to find what you’ve lost, I’d climb the mountains
and cross the seas
… a way to believe in happiness after the storm, I’d make
the choice for you
But, I am not you.
It is not my battle to win,
It is not my quest to claim,
It is not my silent storm to calm.
Only you can fight it.
Only you can fight it.
If you’ve given up for yourself,
At least please do not give up for me,
If I cannot fight this war on your behalf,
Then, let me fight it with you.
For I am your daughter after all,
At least please do not give up for me,
If I cannot fight this war on your behalf,
Then, let me fight it with you.
For I am your daughter after all,
The one you call “the strong one”,
Now, let me believe that this is still true.
21 February 2014
Limitations
I feel like an orphan.
Recently, I underwent a major
operation and felt scared in my life. This
is a rare case as I am reputed for my strong sense of independence since
younger years and it confuses me why I feel this way. I wanted my family close by but this did not happen. I just want to vent my sadness and disappointment on dear people I cannot rely on. Dear people who fail you most of the time and
won’t even take a chance or make an effort to be with you to tell you, in your face, that all
will be well. I guess, I over-rated myself in terms of importance for the nth time.
Source: Faruk Koksal |
23 January 2014
Life matters if...
A portrait of Woolf by Roger Fry |
For quite some time, I’ve been dreaming living the life of
Virginia Woolf, this is my secret. I
always wanted to spend my days in daze then in a second writing feverishly, if
not, furiously. I would just float away
in my own world where I can just make it into my own, how it works, how it
looks like, and how events would transpire and explain it in my own terms. I fear of dying of boredom doing something
that does not make me happy. I
understand, this is not how conventional wisdom flows.
Is this the life that I want for myself? A life lived on other people’s expectations
and daily rot. My poor idealistic self
is again staring at me, asking me “What
do you live for?” I have an
automated response to this question, of course, for my kids, for my husband, my
family, but never for myself. I may
sound selfish as I say this but I am very certain that I am not.
First, we need to live for ourselves before we could go on
conquering the world. To attain that
level of self-recognition, you must define yourself, aspirations, fears, and
all. Simply put, you need to know what
makes you feel great, the type of feel-great that makes the hair at the back of
your neck stand. You need to pursue your
passion, if you don’t know it yet, then you must take time to search it. This is the essence of a life well
lived. One can only live for others
unless she lives for herself first. This
is now my answer.
04 December 2013
Finding Courage
When one is lost,
you find meaning through words of other people.
I found one that immensely affected me, so great that it would be a sin
not to share his words. To Steve
Kroschel, thank you, I found solace and courage in the wisdom of your words.
Excerpts from Dying to have Known by Steve Kroschel
For each of us
eventually, whether we're ready or not, someday, it will come to an end.
There will be no
more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things
you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth,
fame, and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not
matter what you owned or owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations
and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too your
hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do list will expire.
The wins and
losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter
where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived at the end.
It won't matter
if you're beautiful or brilliant, even your gender and skin color will be
irrelevant.
So what will
matter? How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter
is not what you bought, but what you built, not what you got, but what you
gave.
What will matter
is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter
is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter
is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, or sacrifice that enriched,
empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter
is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter
is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss
when you're gone.
What will matter
is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter
is how long you will be remembered by whom, and for what.
A life lived that
matters is not of circumstance, but of choice.
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